Always be direct (with love)

“I sense she’s hesitant,” a guy friend just texted me about the woman he’s in love with.

“Explain,” I said.

“I told her I’m coming to visit,” he said. “She emailed about something else and said she’ll respond later.”

“Hmm…” I said. “Be open and direct with her. Say what you feel and what you want.”

“That is not my speciality,” he said. “Being open and direct.”

“Perfect time to learn,” I said.

“I want to be with her,” he said. “That’s it.”

“Tell her that,” I said. “Find out an answer and don’t waste time.”

“Okay,” he said. “Be direct you say?”

“Always,” I said.

This got me thinking… we waste so much time and energy by not being direct, by not openly and immediately addressing and expressing our feelings, and by assuming that others can read our minds.

No one can read your mind. No one knows what you really mean when you beat around the bush. So say what you feel, express what you want, do it with love, and always be direct.

Last week I approached a friend to ask him to invest in The Bold Academy. Feeling nervous before the meeting, my biz partner Nathaniel texted me, “Be you and don’t bury the lead.” He knew exactly what I needed to hear in that moment.

With that reminder, I walked into the meeting smiling and directly expressed what I was looking for. Twenty minutes later, we shook hands and hugged, and I raised my first round of investment capital.

It’s easy to hesitate when the answers might lead to getting hurt or being rejected. But oddly, the more we get hurt and the more we’re rejected, the closer we align ourselves with the right people and opportunities. If someone doesn’t want to be with or invest in you, someone who is more aligned will.

So if you’re in love with someone, tell them. Find out how they feel and either be in love together or move forward to find that right person.

If someone is doing something that pisses you off, tell them. Speak openly and honestly and from the heart.

If you hate your job, talk to your boss. Discuss what isn’t working for you and be prepared to suggest solutions for how you might improve the situation. If you don’t experience an improvement, move on.

If you don’t know how to do something, find someone who does and ask for their help, while being respectful of their time.

Start right now and don’t waste time. Express what you want and do it from the heart.

p.s. Tomorrow, June 20 at 6pm PST/9pm EST, I’m doing a live talk about manifesting your boldest desires with Danielle Leslie of the Do Love project. It’ll be part conversation, part Q&A… Register here to join!

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Thanks to David for inspiring the post and Kyle for reading the draft.

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