hey amber rae

High-res Since beginning the #the100daybook 42 days ago, I’ve taken over 1500 photos. 

1500 photos! For 42 posts! 

That’s an average of about 35 photos (and 34 I’m-just-not-that-into-you shots) per day. 

Want to know the learning? It’s not about quantity over quality. Or tying everything. Or experimenting to see what works. 

It’s about falling in love with the moment, feeling the spark, and capturing the here and now. I always know when I’ve gotten the right shot. Not because I saw it, but because I felt it.

"Oooo got it," I’ll think, eyes closed and heart warming. "She’s the one."

Day 42 of 100. #the100dayproject

Since beginning the #the100daybook 42 days ago, I’ve taken over 1500 photos.

1500 photos! For 42 posts!

That’s an average of about 35 photos (and 34 I’m-just-not-that-into-you shots) per day.

Want to know the learning? It’s not about quantity over quality. Or tying everything. Or experimenting to see what works.

It’s about falling in love with the moment, feeling the spark, and capturing the here and now. I always know when I’ve gotten the right shot. Not because I saw it, but because I felt it.

"Oooo got it," I’ll think, eyes closed and heart warming. "She’s the one."

Day 42 of 100. #the100dayproject

High-res Sometimes the best way forward is to take a step back. 

To see where you are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going. To ask why. To remember the big picture. To forge a better path. 

A year ago today, do you remember where you stood?

Day 41 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at Alcatraz Island)

Sometimes the best way forward is to take a step back.

To see where you are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going. To ask why. To remember the big picture. To forge a better path.

A year ago today, do you remember where you stood?

Day 41 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at Alcatraz Island)

High-res A few days ago I stumbled into this magical tea house. The light illuminated the stone steps I climbed to enter the space and scents of wood and freshly brewed chamomile tea drew me inward. 

I nestled into the meditation cushion, closing my eyes and crossing my legs to begin the meditation practice.

As I breathed in and out, remembering to “notice my breath,” especially when my mind wanders (as it usually does), the thoughts and ideas only seemed to accelerate and multiply. 

"Notice your breath," I thought. *Idea. Idea. Idea.*

"Notice your breath!!" I asserted again. *More ideas. More thoughts. More wandering.*

"Notice your breath," I thought again, calmly this time. 

In a buzz of swarming urges that were only growing louder, I unexpectedly yelled out, “I hear you!” And suddenly the voices went quiet. I remembered I’m their creator. 

"I hear you," I said softly. And suddenly my shoulders softened.  

"I hear you," I said again. And suddenly the moment enraptured me. 

"I hear you": three words that just might quiet the noise. 

Day 40 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject  (at Alamo Square)

A few days ago I stumbled into this magical tea house. The light illuminated the stone steps I climbed to enter the space and scents of wood and freshly brewed chamomile tea drew me inward.

I nestled into the meditation cushion, closing my eyes and crossing my legs to begin the meditation practice.

As I breathed in and out, remembering to “notice my breath,” especially when my mind wanders (as it usually does), the thoughts and ideas only seemed to accelerate and multiply.

"Notice your breath," I thought. *Idea. Idea. Idea.*

"Notice your breath!!" I asserted again. *More ideas. More thoughts. More wandering.*

"Notice your breath," I thought again, calmly this time.

In a buzz of swarming urges that were only growing louder, I unexpectedly yelled out, “I hear you!” And suddenly the voices went quiet. I remembered I’m their creator.

"I hear you," I said softly. And suddenly my shoulders softened.

"I hear you," I said again. And suddenly the moment enraptured me.

"I hear you": three words that just might quiet the noise.

Day 40 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at Alamo Square)

High-res I met a 47-year old yogi the other night who didn’t look a day over 30, both in energy and appearance. “What’s your secret?” I asked him. “Let other people carry their shit,” he said quickly and definitively. 
Hearing this hit me in the gut. 
As someone who can feel other people’s energy intensely, I have a tendency to pick it up and carry it with me. To take it personally. To let it weigh me down. 
There are two strategies I’m playing with lately to navigate this:

a. “That totally sucks. That saddens me to hear that.” When things aren’t going well for others, I’ll acknowledge and empathize with heart and share what is alive in me by hearing about their situation. 
And depending on the circumstances and closeness of the connection, I’ll ask:

b. “How can I support you?” I find myself torn up when I’m uncertain as to how I can be of service and support when challenges arise. Asking this simple question takes the pressure off and encourages the other person to clarify their ask. “Oh there’s nothing for you to do! This is a me thing.” or “I’d love if you could do this one thing…” or “I just need you to hold space like you are right now…” are some of the responses I’ve received lately. 
Which brings me to: works well for you?

Day 39 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject

I met a 47-year old yogi the other night who didn’t look a day over 30, both in energy and appearance. “What’s your secret?” I asked him. “Let other people carry their shit,” he said quickly and definitively.
Hearing this hit me in the gut.
As someone who can feel other people’s energy intensely, I have a tendency to pick it up and carry it with me. To take it personally. To let it weigh me down.
There are two strategies I’m playing with lately to navigate this:

a. “That totally sucks. That saddens me to hear that.” When things aren’t going well for others, I’ll acknowledge and empathize with heart and share what is alive in me by hearing about their situation.
And depending on the circumstances and closeness of the connection, I’ll ask:

b. “How can I support you?” I find myself torn up when I’m uncertain as to how I can be of service and support when challenges arise. Asking this simple question takes the pressure off and encourages the other person to clarify their ask. “Oh there’s nothing for you to do! This is a me thing.” or “I’d love if you could do this one thing…” or “I just need you to hold space like you are right now…” are some of the responses I’ve received lately.
Which brings me to: works well for you?

Day 39 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject

High-res Is play a waste of time? 
Studies show it makes us smarter and more adaptable. “A lack of play should be treated like malnutrition,” says Stuart Brown M.D. “It’s a health risk to your body and your mind.” So let’s play today, shall we?

p.s. shoutout to my friend @charliehoehn for the recent release of his book, “Play It Away” — a glimpse into how he cured his anxiety through play. 
Day 38 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at Marshall’s Beach‎)

Is play a waste of time?
Studies show it makes us smarter and more adaptable. “A lack of play should be treated like malnutrition,” says Stuart Brown M.D. “It’s a health risk to your body and your mind.” So let’s play today, shall we?

p.s. shoutout to my friend @charliehoehn for the recent release of his book, “Play It Away” — a glimpse into how he cured his anxiety through play.
Day 38 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at Marshall’s Beach‎)

High-res This morning I decided to hop a ferry from San Francisco to Larkspur to catch up with a dear friend and collaborator in Marin. In between quiet moments in nature, mountain hikes and lake picnics, we dived into how our paths are crossing and where there is potential for more expansion together. 

One thing that came up in conversation is how we describe ourselves and our life—in one word. This concept was first introduced to me by @elleluna and it’s led to many deep convos and insights since. 

So, I’m curious: what’s your one word? 

Mine is Inspire. 

Day 37 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject 
 (at Golden Gate Ferry)

This morning I decided to hop a ferry from San Francisco to Larkspur to catch up with a dear friend and collaborator in Marin. In between quiet moments in nature, mountain hikes and lake picnics, we dived into how our paths are crossing and where there is potential for more expansion together.

One thing that came up in conversation is how we describe ourselves and our life—in one word. This concept was first introduced to me by @elleluna and it’s led to many deep convos and insights since.

So, I’m curious: what’s your one word?

Mine is Inspire.

Day 37 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject
(at Golden Gate Ferry)

High-res Tasting worm salt for the first time. Dipping my pinky in Mescal and putting it on my palm. Smelling the smokiness. Feeling the heat. Sipping the drink and letting it sit in my mouth. Watching how it lingers. 

To savor. 

To pause, feel, smell, taste and fully engage the senses. 

To be intoxicated by the present moment, connecting with strangers, sharing stories, and letting the moment unravel naturally. 

To remember that life isn’t short; it’s actually quite long. Especially when we remember to savor each day. 

Day 36 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject  (at La Urbana)

Tasting worm salt for the first time. Dipping my pinky in Mescal and putting it on my palm. Smelling the smokiness. Feeling the heat. Sipping the drink and letting it sit in my mouth. Watching how it lingers.

To savor.

To pause, feel, smell, taste and fully engage the senses.

To be intoxicated by the present moment, connecting with strangers, sharing stories, and letting the moment unravel naturally.

To remember that life isn’t short; it’s actually quite long. Especially when we remember to savor each day.

Day 36 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at La Urbana)

High-res "Pull the coconut from your face," my friend @victorsaad said to me the other day. 

He said this as I was putting way too much pressure on myself. As I was romanticizing the writing and creative process. As I was expecting myself to create perfect first drafts. 

"Imagine holding a coconut to your face," Victor continued. "All you can see is the hairiness of the coconut. If you pull it away from your face, you’ll notice the beauty of the tree it fell from, the environment it landed, and, if you pay close attention, you’ll notice that it’s remarkably sweet."

Ahhh beautiful perspective. 

Day 35 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject 
 (at Factory 1000)

"Pull the coconut from your face," my friend @victorsaad said to me the other day.

He said this as I was putting way too much pressure on myself. As I was romanticizing the writing and creative process. As I was expecting myself to create perfect first drafts.

"Imagine holding a coconut to your face," Victor continued. "All you can see is the hairiness of the coconut. If you pull it away from your face, you’ll notice the beauty of the tree it fell from, the environment it landed, and, if you pay close attention, you’ll notice that it’s remarkably sweet."

Ahhh beautiful perspective.

Day 35 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject
(at Factory 1000)

High-res You know that moment when you’re about to start or ship something really important and you get that Eeeeek-is-this-really-a-good-idea feeling? 

It’s what Julian Smith calls the “Flinch moment.” It’s when you draw back or shrink from what is dangerous, difficult or unpleasant. Behind that flinch is pain avoidance, and dealing with that pain demands strength you may not think you have. And so you back off. 

I recently asked Elizabeth Gilbert how she deals with the paralyzing fear that comes along with putting something you care about out into the world. 

"By choosing creativity over fear," she said. 

By feeling the pain and going there anyway. 

By turning self-doubt into self-expression.

By channeling that energy into creating or doing something. Anything. 

A journal entry. A poem. An angry painting. A boxing lesson. An honest conversation. An email you’ve been putting off. A sea of tears. A long walk. A 100-day book project. 

When we go where there is pain, and where there is fear, we step into our soul’s evolution.

What have you been hiding from lately?

Day 34 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject  (at DUMBO)

You know that moment when you’re about to start or ship something really important and you get that Eeeeek-is-this-really-a-good-idea feeling?

It’s what Julian Smith calls the “Flinch moment.” It’s when you draw back or shrink from what is dangerous, difficult or unpleasant. Behind that flinch is pain avoidance, and dealing with that pain demands strength you may not think you have. And so you back off.

I recently asked Elizabeth Gilbert how she deals with the paralyzing fear that comes along with putting something you care about out into the world.

"By choosing creativity over fear," she said.

By feeling the pain and going there anyway.

By turning self-doubt into self-expression.

By channeling that energy into creating or doing something. Anything.

A journal entry. A poem. An angry painting. A boxing lesson. An honest conversation. An email you’ve been putting off. A sea of tears. A long walk. A 100-day book project.

When we go where there is pain, and where there is fear, we step into our soul’s evolution.

What have you been hiding from lately?

Day 34 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at DUMBO)

High-res Jason Fried of 37 Signals said he’s often asked by ambitious young entrepreneurs: “How can I get more done in fewer hours?” 

"You can’t," he says. "Stop trying so hard—if it feels like work, something’s wrong."

We’re human, not machines. We can only artificially motivate ourselves and others for so long. Not every day will or can be a Holy-shit-I-am-so-alive-and-on-fire kind of day. 

Creating this expectation sets us up for failure and disappointment (and ahem, I do this to myself all the time). Another approach is tapping into our natural rhythm of productivity, trusting that our motivation and output will ebb and flow. Like the weather. Like seasons changing. Like nature. 

So whatever season you’re in, trust your waves. When a surge in creativity comes your way, run with it. When you find yourself in an ebb, keep taking action until the dots connect and inspiration strikes once again. 

Day 33 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject  (at DUMBO)

Jason Fried of 37 Signals said he’s often asked by ambitious young entrepreneurs: “How can I get more done in fewer hours?”

"You can’t," he says. "Stop trying so hard—if it feels like work, something’s wrong."

We’re human, not machines. We can only artificially motivate ourselves and others for so long. Not every day will or can be a Holy-shit-I-am-so-alive-and-on-fire kind of day.

Creating this expectation sets us up for failure and disappointment (and ahem, I do this to myself all the time). Another approach is tapping into our natural rhythm of productivity, trusting that our motivation and output will ebb and flow. Like the weather. Like seasons changing. Like nature.

So whatever season you’re in, trust your waves. When a surge in creativity comes your way, run with it. When you find yourself in an ebb, keep taking action until the dots connect and inspiration strikes once again.

Day 33 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at DUMBO)

High-res At every moment, we have the opportunity to create intention. To make a conversation more meaningful, to add context to a dinner, to add life to a creative project, to go deeper into a relationship. 

Tonight, @farhadini and I hosted a dinner at our loft, creating the space to connect and dive into each other’s “burning questions.” 

Hours of heart-centered conversation and presence emerged. The power of intention fully revealed itself as we shared hopes, fears, dreams and big ideas.

Tonight reminded me: intention is a choice, and each day we have the ability to bring purpose into every moment, interaction, decision and action. 

What intention are you bringing into your day?

Day 32 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject  (at DUMBO)

At every moment, we have the opportunity to create intention. To make a conversation more meaningful, to add context to a dinner, to add life to a creative project, to go deeper into a relationship.

Tonight, @farhadini and I hosted a dinner at our loft, creating the space to connect and dive into each other’s “burning questions.”

Hours of heart-centered conversation and presence emerged. The power of intention fully revealed itself as we shared hopes, fears, dreams and big ideas.

Tonight reminded me: intention is a choice, and each day we have the ability to bring purpose into every moment, interaction, decision and action.

What intention are you bringing into your day?

Day 32 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject (at DUMBO)

High-res I have two fear voices. Grace and Momma Jenny. One limits my growth and the other supports it. 

Grace is a mid-thirties British woman who cares only about appearances. She wants me to show up perfect and never make mistakes. The risky path makes her really uncomfortable as she’d rather keep things simple and safe. 

Grace is a huge pain in the ass as she completely limits my creative freedom and expression. Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed by fear, it’s time for Grace and I to have an honest conversation. 

Momma Jenny, on the other hand, is my biggest fan and cheerleader. She’s an 80-year old black woman who just loves me to pieces—no matter what. She pushes me to be imperfect and share my vulnerabilities, and she encourages me to take risks and listen to my truth. 

Grace represents the fear that holds me back, whereas Momma Jenny embodies the fear that propels my growth forward. 

Whenever I’m feeling overcome by fear (it doesn’t go away, I’ve just gotten better at navigating it), I’ll have a heart-to-heart with Grace so she feels heard. Once she’s heard, she’s quiet, and suddenly Momma Jenny and I can carry on with our creative path. 

The insight: Name your fears. Don’t push them away. 

Day 31 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject

 (at Under The Brooklyn Bridge)

I have two fear voices. Grace and Momma Jenny. One limits my growth and the other supports it.

Grace is a mid-thirties British woman who cares only about appearances. She wants me to show up perfect and never make mistakes. The risky path makes her really uncomfortable as she’d rather keep things simple and safe.

Grace is a huge pain in the ass as she completely limits my creative freedom and expression. Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed by fear, it’s time for Grace and I to have an honest conversation.

Momma Jenny, on the other hand, is my biggest fan and cheerleader. She’s an 80-year old black woman who just loves me to pieces—no matter what. She pushes me to be imperfect and share my vulnerabilities, and she encourages me to take risks and listen to my truth.

Grace represents the fear that holds me back, whereas Momma Jenny embodies the fear that propels my growth forward.

Whenever I’m feeling overcome by fear (it doesn’t go away, I’ve just gotten better at navigating it), I’ll have a heart-to-heart with Grace so she feels heard. Once she’s heard, she’s quiet, and suddenly Momma Jenny and I can carry on with our creative path.

The insight: Name your fears. Don’t push them away.

Day 31 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject

(at Under The Brooklyn Bridge)

High-res Want to know something that’s really tough and scary to swallow?

Disappointment. Rejection. Abandonment. 

I’m realizing more and more that as I continue to live my truth and design a life around it, I will disappoint and let others down—even if I don’t mean to. 

The more I act on soft whispers and inner wisdom, the greater the risk of rejection and not being loved. 

Eek! 

But want to know the greater risk?

Disappointing myself. Rejecting myself. Abandoning myself. And never having the freedom to know and experience who I really am. 

The journey toward truth can be scary and painful, but it just might be the most important risk we take. 

Day 29 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject
 (at DUMBO)

Want to know something that’s really tough and scary to swallow?

Disappointment. Rejection. Abandonment.

I’m realizing more and more that as I continue to live my truth and design a life around it, I will disappoint and let others down—even if I don’t mean to.

The more I act on soft whispers and inner wisdom, the greater the risk of rejection and not being loved.

Eek!

But want to know the greater risk?

Disappointing myself. Rejecting myself. Abandoning myself. And never having the freedom to know and experience who I really am.

The journey toward truth can be scary and painful, but it just might be the most important risk we take.

Day 29 of 100. #the100daybook #the100dayproject
(at DUMBO)